Happiness is a simple concept; yet, many people don’t realize it. We all want to be happy but we search for it in wrong places. Some people find happiness in materialistic gains like owning a house, latest gadgets, expensive cars and more. But sometimes, even the biggest achievement of life does not make a person happy. On the other hand, you will come across many people who feel happy and satisfied although they have not done anything significant in their life.
So what actually makes people happy? It is just the difference in perspective, the way we see things. This is the major difference between happy and unhappy people. Happy people tend to ignore a few negative things in life to stay happy while the unhappy ones fall into those traps and remain miserable. Sometimes people create their own problems and miseries by their own action. Check out these 8 traps you should avoid if you want to be happy in life.
Gossiping about others won’t do you any good and will only make you feel jealous and bitter. A person who gossips is the one whose personal life is not fulfilling enough and he/she wants to know what is happening in other people’s life. People who are happy and content always avoid this pitfall and focus on their own life instead.
2. Negative thinking
Thinking negatively is bound to affect your happiness since you are focusing on the gray areas of life, instead of positive emotions. Negative things keep you worried and disturbed all the time. On the other hand, happy people always approach things positively and are optimistic in nature. They always see the glass as half full while negative people see it as half empty.
3. What others think about you
One factor on which you have absolutely no control – so try and avoid it to stay happy. Don’t ponder over what others might be thinking about you. You can never alter somebody’s opinion. But if you spend too much time on that and try to please all, you will eventually forget who you truly are. So just listen to your heart and do what your intuition is telling you. You need not change yourself to impress or inspire someone. Just be yourself and let others be inspired and impressed by your true self.
4. Remembering troubles from the past
You must forget what happened in the past and how it impacted your life. Do not think too much about it as you cannot change what has already happened. Past troubles can affect a person badly if he/she refuses to move on. So forget the past, live in your present and focus on your future. Moreover, your past mistakes can act as a guide and teach you valuable lessons. At times, the most tragic and stressful situations teach you the best lessons in life. So learn from them and let your past go.
5. Holding onto resentment
We all do it and then feel too stressed to lead a happy life. Holding on to resentment will simply intensify your hard feelings and negative emotions, making you feel sad deep down. You must learn to let go and forgive the other person for his/her wrong behavior. If you can’t forgive, at least stop thinking about it day and night, and move on. You will have a new sense of freedom and satisfaction when you get the better of your pent-up anger and frustration.
6. Arguing to prove you are right
All of us cling to our opinions, whether we are right or wrong. There is nothing wrong in presenting your point of view. But one must be rational and listen carefully to what others have to say. A different perspective often helps us get a broader vision and you must not ignore it just because it may hurt your ego. Also, take things easy – it is not mandatory to prove you are right during the course of a heated argument. Instead, listen to others as they voice their concerns and suggestions. After all, you always have the choice to agree or disagree at the end of it.
7. Nurturing huge expectations
Let go of undue expectations – they can undermine your happiness as you keep looking for life’s little rewards where there is none. Learn to accept people for who they really are and forget what they can do for you. Once you realize that your expectations cannot change the other person, you can let go of false hopes and won’t feel disappointed. The sooner you realize it, the better off you will be. Also, unmatched expectations often lead to dissatisfaction. So just face every situation with open mind and try to make the best of the existing opportunities. Finally, don’t force yourself to live up to others’ expectations. Just being yourself is the key to happiness.
8. Ignoring problems
Do not avoid problems. Only those who are unhappy and scared ignore problems and feel tense when they become worse or get out of hand. It is always better to solve those issues in the very beginning to reduce your stress level. Otherwise, the stress and anxiety of knowing that something is brewing and you are consciously avoiding it will make you worried and miserable.
Written by Manisha Goel